Your pleasure matters.

Why am I so happy to be the Radical Sexologist? What is radical sexuality and why is it essential for lasting sexual freedom and resilience?  Ultimately, I believe that people who have created their most authentic sex lives are living by a set of principles that are universally nourishing for sexual expression, relational presence, and […]

The power of synchronized breathing The practice of breathing together is a time-honored, traditional way to slow down and tune in with each other. So much of what gets in the way of connection is not taking time to allow our minds to settle, our anxieties to ebb, and our bodies to relax together. What […]

Where should you turn when you have a problem? Knowing who to turn to when you are looking for support with your sexuality can be complex.  Most likely, if you have had health problems in the past, you simply went to your primary care doctor or maybe you saw a specialist such as a gynecologist […]

Why sex education for providers matters. When is the last time your doctor or nurse practitioner asked you about your sex life?   Who can you turn to when you want basic information about your sexual anatomy or functioning?  Or if you have a problem? Why is it that the average woman with pelvic pain will […]

Why tighter may not be right-er The pelvic floor needs a public relations campaign. Seriously! The pelvic floor is one of the body’s many unsung heroes, quietly humming along in the background taking care of us.  Even when something goes wrong with the pelvic floor, most people don’t know enough about it to even suspect […]

Lubrication.  What a wonderful thing. It reduces friction when body parts rub together. It makes sex comfortable.  Heck, it makes it more than comfortable, it makes sex pleasurable! Many women* feel very proud of the amount of lubrication they create when aroused.  For some it is a sign of their femininity. For others it expresses […]

Perhaps the most common complaint of women* in my office is of pain with sex.  When I am meeting with a woman around the time of menopause or after, far too often the conversations goes something like this… Me: “Did this pain start in menopause?” Client: “Yes, I was fine before that?” Me: “Did your […]

What is the most common complaint of women* in my office? Sex hurts. What is the most common reason that women have pain with sex? Menopause. What is the most common reason that I get frustrated and enraged on a daily basis? Untreated pain with menopause! Up to 87% of women will experience pain with […]

It turns out that sex hurts way more often than you would think. In fact, pain is probably the single most common concern of women* who come to talk to me about their sex lives. It may surprise you to know that menopause is the culprit for a lot of this pain (though there are […]