It really is true that everybody gets stuck sometimes...including me! Let me share with you the story of how I became a sexologist.
Sex is good... right?
Mostly I just blamed myself. Maybe I really was just broken, confused, and fundamentally not the kind of person that was ever going get this right with someone I actually deeply loved. Does any of this sound familiar to you? Maybe you have felt confused about what’s going on for you sexually and stuck not knowing how to create an authentic sex life?
Maybe you are like me? I like sex. I like how it feels to be dreamy and turned on. I like feeling good, being close, having orgasms. It’s all a pretty freakin’ fantastic part of being a human being.
And I was pretty good at manifesting that in relationships early on, heck maybe I was even great sometimes! But invariably as we were together longer, something would always shift. And that sexual fire inside me would dim.
SOMETHING HAD TO CHANGE.
This all came to a crisis point in my marriage that set me off on a journey to figure out how to unwind this bind. It took me in a lot of different directions, some of them amazing and some of them quite painful to live through. But I started to understand that I was not alone in my experience and that I was not broken.
So, what did I learn? I realized that that dynamics that were playing out in my bedroom were playing out in bedrooms every night all over the world. That many of those dynamics were collective ones, meaning a lot of cultural bullshit (I’m looking at you Patriarchy) that we think we have outgrown is popping up and high-jacking us in our most intimate spaces. Basically, we are woke in the streets, but woefully unwoke in the sheets! I learned other things too, like how the body-mind connection works and how trauma, attachment, nervous system dysregulation, and stress affect us sexually, etc. etc.
Fundamentally, I learned that I wasn’t broken! That I had always been whole and that I could learn to create the sexual life I always wanted. Maybe you are whole too (you are!). Maybe you can create your best sex life, too (you can!).
And when I did that my sex life started to shift (thank god, because feeling stuck sexually is painful). But what surprised me was that
other things started to shift, too.
The good news is that you can get radical, too! You can find your way to your own personal version of radical sexual authenticity and I am here to help. I have dedicated my life to helping people do just that. Let’s get radical together!
So how do I do that? I got radical. I committed to radical sexual authenticity as a priority. I got radically curious and I learned everything I could about sex. I got radically mindful, took radical action, and made finding that flow and radical alignment my north star.
And when I did that my sex life started to shift. But what surprised me was that other things started to shift, too. Before my spiritual practices always seemed tepid or limp. My work was good, but it never felt like I was doing something that was truly aligned with my purpose in life.
Now I feel truly tuned in and turned on! I feel lit up and alive, and that radiance affects every part of my life. Turns out that something about our sexual selves is vital to our health, to our ability to connect, and a key to the good life.
Before I had spiritual practices, but they always seemed tepid or limp. My work was good, but it never felt like I was doing something that was truly aligned with my purpose in life.
Now I feel truly tuned in and turned on! I feel lit up and alive, and that radiance affects every part of my life with family and friends, in my spiritual life, and work. Turns out that our sexual selves are vital to our health, to our ability to connect, and a key to the good life
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CERTIFIED SEX COUNSELOR
Number of national sexuality organizations I participate in.
6
NP Certifications
2
ATTACHMENT THEORY
POLYVAGAL THEORY
Human Design
Breathwork
> 2000
Hours of training in sexuality
I been out here hustling to learn how to help you transform your sex life.
Sexual Medicine
Embodiment & Trauma
Somatic Experiencing
Relational Life Therapy
Gottman
My love of helping people find their sexual mojo!
Nationally Certified Menopause Provider
I am aware that I am white, cis-gendered heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship doing this work. There are reasons beyond my beliefs and my accomplishments that have given me the opportunity to do my work that make it hard for someone outside of these dominant groups to do the same work. I acknowledge that, and I hope this reality continues to change.
I am committed to serving people...
i am committed to serving People...
I am committed to a continuous learning process around how to embody anti-racist and anti-oppressive practices. It is my mission to join with like-minded folks in eradicating oppression through self-education, acknowledgement, and activism.
I am committed to serving People...
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Matcha Honey Latte!
COFFEE ORDER
Summer
Season of choice
Cheeseburgers!
FAVORITE FOOD
Learning to grow things
HOBBIES
Inspired
Current Mood
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